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Parent panel

Jun 24, 2010

Today Chris and I were on our first parent panel. We were asked to come to a regional meeting that the State Dept of Ed sponsors for those who are service providers for children with hearing loss. There were people in the room from all over eastern Pennsylvania. Also on the panel was another mother of a kid from PSD; her daughter was in E's class last year. And a mother whose kid was in an oral program. All three kids represented are going into Kindergarten next year. It was a good experience. I hope we were able to be helpful.

I thought I would list the questions and the answers that we prepared. We didn't really follow them as a script, but it was helpful to write out something to organize our thoughts. And also, the usual caveats...this is what is good for our family, but I think there are some general thoughts that anyone going down any deaf educational path could find some benefit from.

1. Please share how the news of your child’s diagnosis was shared with you and what information and resources were given to you at the time of diagnosis.

We came to understanding of Ellis's diagnosis gradually. It took us awhile to understand what the "referred" meant after he failed his newborn hearing screen. We had an appointment with an audiologist at Temple Children's that was not helpful at all when E was 2 months. When E had a "no response" on his ABR, he said that didn't tell him how much hearing loss that he had. This audiologist only told us that E had "some hearing loss" and gave us an Early Intervention number to call for our county. It wasn't until E was around 7 months old and we transferred to CHOP did we get a clear diagnosis of profound sensorineural bilateral hearing loss. And we were already happily enrolled in an EI program. The audiologist at CHOP introduced us to hearing aids and was the first to suggest that he may be a candidate for a cochlear implant.

2. Describe your and your family’s feelings at the time of diagnosis and what type of support (if any) that you found helpful during this time.

I think it did help that we came to a gradual understanding of his hearing loss. We had no defining, black-and-white moments where a diagnosis was handed to us, the unsuspecting parents. But overall we were actually very calm and accepting. To us it didn't seem like a tragedy. All we saw was a healthy, happy baby, and walking through a children's hospital where babies are fighting for their lives really puts things into perspective. I think the Early Intervention support we received from PSD was the most helpful. Our home visitor became a vital part of our life those first couple of years, and we still keep in touch with her.

3. How was the Communication Opportunities shared with you and your family? Do you believe that all options were equally available to you and presented to you in an unbiased manner?

I do believe we were presented with all the options in a very fair way. When I first made the call to Montgomery County's Early Intervention, I was asked whether or not I wanted to sign. At the time, I didn't know not-signing was an option. I just assumed that all deaf people signed. We all remember Linda from Sesame Street, right? When presented with the question, I did ask for some clarification, and the woman gave me brief descriptions of the programs at Clarke and at PSD. I remember jotting down in my notes that she seemed to be nudging me towards Clarke. But still by the end of that conversation I couldn't fathom a reality of not-signing.

When we began our Early Intervention with a teacher of the deaf from PSD, one of the first things she did was to make sure we truly understood all our options. We had a tour of Clarke [oral school], of PSD. She gave us things to read. We really felt like we could ask her anything and make any decision we felt comfortable making.

4. When and how did you come to a decision of what communication option(s) you were going to use and do you believe you had access to qualified professionals in your choice of communication?

From the first day when hearing loss was even brought to the table, our commitment to Ellis has been that he have as much access to everything that might help him. We learned that if he is to have 100% access, that ASL must be available to him, and that he must continue to learn it as well as we would expect a hearing kid to speak. But we also want to give him the benefit of a cochlear implant. His right ear was implanted when he was 2yo and speech therapy and a high auditory access classroom at PSD are part of his IEP, in addition to instruction in ASL. In order to be truly bilingual, he must be allowed to develop to the maximum of his potential in BOTH languages. So that he may easily choose how he moves through his adult life. For us, we felt like we were limiting his life choices if we chose only one mode of communication. In our house, learning another language is par for the course, and ASL is no different.

I do think we were given excellent resources and opportunities. The Mont Co EI and then preschool division bent over backwards to make sure we had just the IFSP/IEP we needed for our bilingual approach. Even though it was a little outside the box for them. PSD also offered us a lot of extra opportunities that weren't "on the books," such as a Deaf Mentor program and the shared reading Program, where a Deaf adult would come into our home and help us learn how to read children's books to Ellis in ASL.

5. As parents of children who are deaf or hard of hearing, we need to learn quickly how to embed language learning into our home environments. What tools/skills did you and your family learn during the early intervention years to support your child’s language learning at home and in their community?

ASL was crucial. Ellis didn't get a CI until he was 2yo. Before then the hearing aid he had didn't give him an language benefit. If we hadn't signed, he would've had no access to language in those crucial 2 years. Because of signing, we have seamless communication if the technology fails. There was actually a time when the processor on his CI and his backup CI both failed simultaneously. It was crazy and it took a long time to figure out. And then they have extra time getting a replacement with a processor, because it has to be programmed.

It's great to have more than one modality for language if technology fails. There is always language, be it ASL or spoken English. We never lose. It's always win. Language is the goal.

6. Please share with us any advise you believe would be helpful to another family who will be on this journey after you.

Another mother brought up the good point, that it's up to the parent to be an expert in everything at the IEP meeting. To really understand what's going on so as to be a good advocate for the child. And then I thought one step further, it's great to do this for the sake of your child. And hopefully it will show them how they can gradually take ownership of their own advocacy, so that they can stand up for what they need.

But we brought to the table to answer this question was this: Talk to Deaf adults. They're lovely people, and they want to tell you that being Deaf doesn't limit them from doing the things they want to do. They want to show that being deaf isn't scary. No matter which mode of communication of avenue of education you choose, there will always be deaf adults on the other side. Talk to them. They will give you a more wholistic picture of your child than just the speech banana your audiologist gives.

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Parenting a Deaf Kid as a Hearing Parent: Four Years In

Sep 14, 2009

Ellis runs ahead of me in all his four-year-old boy vivacity. As I lumber along with the baby on my back, lugging our little bag full of snacks and water bottles, I watch him, waiting for the moment, just before he disappears around the corner, when he'll turn around and make eye contact. I wave him down signing WAIT FOR MOMMY! but he's already plopped down on the park bench and signs WAIT. As I get close, up he pops again, and I watch the back of his head bounce, jump, and dash along.

Cut to later. Ellis is picking up his fifteen-month-old brother. Again. He adores his brother, but sometimes his love is a bit too lavish. I kneel down, fully intending to affirm his love, but to talk with him about more appropriate ways to express it, while firmly prying his arms away from the baby, who is screaming his head off. Ellis drops to the ground, flailing and squeezing his eyes shut.

Four years ago, when we learned that our brand new baby was born profoundly deaf, we knew our experience as parents would be different. We got a kick out of being able to vacuum in the same room as a sleeping baby. We cheered at his vocabulary of ASL at such a young age. We stomped the floor to get his attention.

However, I feel like it's only been this year that I've really begun to get a glimpse at what it means for Ellis to be deaf, and deaf in our hearing family. I've started to see how he settles himself socially. Personally, I'm starting to see the particular ways I fall short as a parent. True, nobody is a perfect parent, but I'm speaking of the ways in which I struggle as a Hearing Parent of a Deaf Kid.

The primary aspect of this unique experience is communication. We are settling into the bilingual dance between spoken English and ASL. Two years ago Ellis got a CI. He's doing pretty well with it, his receptive language is stronger than expressive. I can talk to him without signing through the simple aspects of our routine and that works out fine. He doesn't like to wear it at home. We don't press him to, but, I will admit, I may or may not have bribed him with chocolate milk to wear it at home sometimes. He wears it at school or usually any other time when we're not home. He is most comfortable with ASL, and that is the language we use with him primarily, even if we are speaking, too. This is especially true in discipline situations, where I need to use whatever language we have to its fullest, and since ASL is his preferred language, that is what I use.

From the beginning, we've pursued our education in ASL vigorously. We've taken classes, lived in the dictionary, had Deaf Mentors. But we are far from native signers. We get by. We can communicate fairly effectively with our four-year-old: we can read books in ASL and talk to him about the world around us.

I have found lately, though, that my ASL is starting to fail my parenting needs. It's taken me awhile to figure out what the matter is, because I know the signs and how to use them, but somehow I'm failing to communicate. I think there is a Deaf presence that I don't have. I'm not really sure how to describe it. A way of using my body that transcends the actual signs, that enters into his space, meets it, communicates with it. Connection is a key part of my parenting philosophy and to be so defeated by the basic communication that I need to make it happen is beyond frustrating. It has deeply discouraged me in these past few months especially.

It's not all a total big Fail. We do get along, after all. We do connect. I give him as much physical presence as I can. I give him as much language as I can. And we are a happy family. But sometimes I look at my hearing friends with their hearing kids--parents and children who speak the same native language--and wonder at the ease of it all. To just talk, effortlessly.

He shuts his eyes. Bam. Communication stops. He glances away from me, focusing back to his play. Communication stops. Sure, he might pick up more than I think peripherally. But it is unnerving to have the eye contact lost. The conversation could just be small talk about his play, but it is lost mid-sentence. Is my signing that weak? Do I not have the persona to indicate that I'm talking to you? Ellis seems to think that I can only hear him if I'm looking at him. He screams my name while I am driving until I glance back giving him the visual acknowledgment that I hear him. (Dang! We need a mirror!) He also thinks that if I don't acknowledge him the split second he says my name that I must not hear him, so he repeats it at blood-curdling volumes, until I can turn to him. I'm rambling a little. This summer has been a roller-coaster. My nerves feel shot from his screaming my name, though it's getting a little better.

He's changing socially. We were at a birthday party with all hearing kids, kids he's known since infancy. Another guest, another little boy, ran up to Ellis, hi! what's your name? Ellis didn't know what he said. How much do I step in to intervene? Do I translate for E? Let it go and watch him slip into isolated play? Do I go through the conversation for the bazillionth time? oh, hi. His name is Ellis. He can't hear you, so we talk with our hands. can you say 'hi' like this? Some kids get into it. Some feel awkward and back away. Bless the little British kid at the park the other day who made fast friends with E despite his curious quality.

How do I balance it all? As a mother I want to protect him from all this. I want to make a world that fits him perfectly. I don't want to have to teach him how to negotiate through languages and worlds. I wish I had more to offer him. Yet at the same time, he's doing a pretty good job. Sometimes, I just have to stop and let go. Let him run ahead, trusting that he'll turn around. After all, I am not in control. The God who gave me Ellis also has Ellis perfectly in His arms.

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Man, oh, man

Sep 27, 2008

Hubby blogs----

Wow. What a week. Actually, it's been a week and a half. About the middle of last week, I was looking at a deadline. I knew I had to finish this particular project by the end of the week or so, though I did think I would have the weekend. But for the life of me, I could not get to that project. Whenever I tried, I would be interrupted by some new disaster at my other job. In fact, they owned me for about three days. So by the end of the week I turned to finish the other project.

I knew it would be a programming marathon, but I was determined to make it happen. After almost forty-eight hours without sleep, I had what I had. But I still was not where I needed to be, and my employer was -not- happy with my progress. I swear, thought I would lose my job.

So I worked through Sat. and Sun (I NEVER work on Sundays). And on Monday I was feeling comfortable that I could be done in reasonable time.

Then my other job called up. Disaster. Our client was -very- unhappy. Things had gone completely wrong over the weekend. And though it -really- wasn't our fault, we naturally had to share the blame. So it fell to me on Monday to be the one to offer a solution that would save not only the project but our relationship with the client.

In a moment of complete psychotic disassociation from reality I suggested it might be possible to put together a complete social networking environment in Drupal, within 24 hrs. We already had a template, which could easily be tweaked for the purpose. And once again, another forty-eight hour work marathon later, I was in the same situation as before: desperately trying to put something together in a pinch, hoping it would be good enough to buy more time to keep desperately trying to put something together in a pinch that would buy still more time. Only now I was doing it on two fronts, for two clients.

I don't have to tell you that as I sit here I feel like I've lived five years in two weeks. I'm just now remembering that I have a family, and I'm trying not to think about everything I have left to do. I'm trying to think of what to say to my wife to start getting to know her again. And I'm not sure that Ellis remembers who I am.

I did find out from talking to her today that Ellis had a rough speech therapy session, though not in the usual mode of rough. We've been struggling to keep him engaged during the sessions. The therapist thinks he should be making more progress than he is. So she asked a colleague to run this week's session, while she watched.

Second opinions can be just the thing for getting over a hump. Unfortunately, it seems that one of the reasons we are not seeing the progress we should may be that E has processing difficulties. He's struggling in ways he shouldn't, even given the challenges of being deaf. And maybe he is showing evidence of this processing problem in ASL, too. Only we would never have known it, because we could never get anyone to give us a proper ASL evaluation as part of our IEP.

So yea, we've pretty much had a normal week. What's new with you?

The IEP Meeting

May 03, 2008

Ellis is a big boy now. We held his IEP meeting today in our home and drafted up a thorough Individualized Education Plan for when he turns three in a month and a half (eek!). Thankfully, we squeezed this in before baby.

The meeting lasted two and a half hours, and I'm satisfied with what we came up with. One of our biggest concerns was that the IEP take into consideration Ellis as a whole deaf person, not just a cochlear implant. The biggest implication for this would be where he goes to school (in our case, he will stay at PSD). But the smaller implications are in the details. If there are speech production goals, are there also ASL goals, for instance? The goals need to clearly reflect a bilingual approach and take into consideration growth and development in two languages, two modalities, with adequate support, instruction, and evaluation for both.

So we took a long time to hash through all the tiny details of both the evaluation report and the IEP draft.

The two women from the county working with us are really terrific. I imagine, on a personal level, we might not agree on everything about deaf education choices, but they respect our desires and philosophy of education and have gone the extra mile to help us get what we feel is best for our family. Ellis's Deaf teacher from the school also came (we invited her) and was great help in articulating ASL goals.

I'm really relieved that E will get to stay at PSD next year for the beginning of preschool. He'll go five days a week, which I think is crazy for 3 yos. But I'm not going to send him all day, which I think is even CRAZIER for 3yos. The program runs from 8.30 to 2.45! I'm bringing him home at noon, because he doesn't need to stay at school for a nap (LOL!) and a snack, you know? The instruction time is basically done by noon anyway.

It's kind of amazing to think that the first IEP hurdle is behind us. I kind of have to laugh at myself, too, because a few months ago, I was so obsessive about the big, scary IEP. But now I'm so absorbed with the immanent end to this pregnancy, that I kept forgetting that we had the meeting scheduled for this afternoon and almost went to get my haircut.

So now we're squared away for the upcoming school year. So far I much prefer how the IEP is set up in our county than the IFSP (the 0-3yo plan that we've been on since we started services).

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Apr 15, 2008

One of the things that needs to happen before baby is getting Ellis's IEP squared away, which is scheduled for May 2.

So far, the IEP is turning out to be a much saner arrangement than E's IFSP (the 0-3 program). It's just us and two intelligent people who are easy to work with and are specialized in deaf education. With the IFSP, there's a weird arrangement of service coordinator (who is basically a paper pusher with no specialized knowledge), a representative from a contracting agency, a crazy array of teachers providing a variety of specialized services. I find it a little annoying.

Yesterday E's new speech teacher was accompanied to our home by the person from our county's intermediate unit who supervises all the deaf ed stuff. She's really great. They both are. I imagine we probably differ a little on a personal level in terms of deaf educational philosophy, but they are really supportive of us and have been extremely helpful so far. I knew this was our official Evaluation Sessions for the IEP, but I wasn't sure exactly how they would approach it. Essentially, E had a normal "speech therapy" session, they got some information from us, and now we can check that step off our list.

I know they are qualified to evaluate him from an entire language perspective, but most of yesterday's evaluation was focused on listening and speaking with an acknowledgement of his skills in ASL. I wonder if it would also be appropriate to evaluate from ASL only point of view, too. I think I will have to ask his Deaf teacher about that. Though I'm not sure how their evaluative rubrics would accommodate that, it seems that if we're being truly consistent with our educational goals for him that this would need to take place, too. Hmm. I guess I'm off to write some more emails.

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Life is like . . . a submarine.

Mar 15, 2008

Yet another rare appearance by Dad!

Ever see Das Boot, or Crimson Tide? The Hunt for Red October doesn't count, because it doesn't really convey the reality of daily life on a submarine. It's excruciatingly boring, characterized by much olfactory discomfort, governed by very strict rules of economy, and only occasionally interrupted by periods of spine crushing intensity.

Which is to say that after a nice vacation from being hot under the collar about Deaf stuff I'm back in the game. Jeannette cajoled me into attending a CI parent forum at CHOP, yesterday. I thought it would be nice to show up to something with her, for once, and I'm glad I did.*

Last year's forum was dominated by the Orals, but this year's was different. There was only one or two of 'them' to three of 'us' on the panel. And I know there were some quality people in the audience besides, so that's at least a pretty good balance-- even slightly in our favor.

There was something that bothered me, though. We call ourselves bilingual/bicultural. That means that we are committed to bringing Ellis up to 'know he is deaf.' That's why ASL remains so important to us.

But I'm worried when I hear other bi/bi families say that their child is backing off of ASL now that they are implanted. And something doesn't feel right when they say things like this:

"We want to hold on to ASL because we want our child to be able to have friends that are deaf."

"We think it's important to recognize that even though our child can hear some things, she still is deaf, and there will be times when she isn't wearing the CI when we still need to communicate."

On the surface, comments like these are right on. They indicate that the family is not the sort who fears diversity. They aren't afraid of the challenge of learning a completely different way of communicating. They accept their child's deafness, and don't think of it as a problem to be fixed.

So what's wrong with this? Well, this is the way I put it to Jeannette after the forum. When a child is implanted, the parents immediately get to work teaching the child to listen and speak. It isn't a natural skill, so it has to be practiced. All the time. Parents are under enormous pressure to KEEP THAT CI ON. All the time. Parents at these forums talk about their strategies for doing this, and talk about whether or not it's 'OK' to let the kid have down time without the device. They talk about how sometimes their child chooses to sign something, even though they know how to say it. So they refuse to acknowledge the attempt at communication unless it's verbalized.

There is a tension, because on the one hand, he does need to wear it a lot to get the benefit from it, and he does need to be encouraged to use his new skill of speaking because, like any skill, it takes practice.

But on the other hand, why does he have to have it on all the time? Is it only OK to 'let' him take it off when he's exhausted after a day of listening?

There just seems to be an imbalance here. We talk about 'letting' him take it off. Why should having it on be the default, while having it off is the exception? Why are we not as creative and proactive about getting him to practice his signing as we are about getting him to speak?

Jeannette already mentioned that Ellis took off his CI for a couple of hours the other day, because he wanted to enjoy wearing his hat without worrying about the magnet. Fine. I have no problem with him taking it off for a midday break or after speech therapy. Our whole evening routine, from bath to bed (including story time) is done sans CI. Listening is hard work, and he gets tired!

I think that what bothers me is that the arguments given for keeping ASL around after implantation almost always are exlusively pragmatic. It's something families felt forced into initially, because it was the only or best option before their kid was implanted. And they continue to think that it's a good idea to 'have' sign, but when the implant comes along they fully intend to make speech the default mode. They want their child to be able to switch from the hearing world into the deaf world, not the other way around. I think that's an important difference.

So for us ASL was not only a pragmatic choice but an ethical one. We want him to be Deaf, and we want sign to be his language. We also want him to have every advantage as he navigates the majority hearing culture. And it becomes really difficult to figure out how to manage this in daily language interactions with our 2 1/2 yo. It's important to us that he continues to grow in sign, to use proper ASL grammar, and to give to it all the seriousness we would any other language. But at the same time, give him all the benefit and training to use his CI to the best of his ability.

I really have no idea what this looks like. I probably don't have a clue what I'm talking about. Just so many thoughts in my head at the moment.

* To his credit, hubby works 60+ hours a week. I end up doing things alone, because he's working so hard for us. Didn't want him to give you the wrong idea. ;-)

language notes

Mar 13, 2008

E's been doing really well about wearing the CI. Much better. He's worn it without taking it off all day almost every day for the past couple of weeks. (Except for the bit yesterday when he wouldn't wear his hat and CI at the same time--and the hat stayed, of course, it's all about fashion). It's nice not to have to search the house multiple times a day to find the stashed CI. Overall in life, E seems a bit more settled. I think coming out of a phase of disequilibrium.

I can see improvement in his speech/listening, too, no doubt thanks to better CI wearing habits. I've realized that I have had to come to peace with speech therapy etc. We were so conflicted about the CI and so protective of his signing, that it's taken us a long time to really accept speech therapy on a certain emotional level. E continues to do well with ASL, and I feel like I can relax a little about it. He's in an environment where his ASL will be nurtured and will continue to grow, and I don't need to be so tense about every little language choice. It also helps me to encourage him more in his speech/listening, since he has the tools to do well, in terms of both equipment and cognitive skills.

Anyway, so a couple of my favorites that are new-ish:

* When we're driving around (which we do a lot) I usually point out the traffic lights and holler from the front "Red! Stop" "wait, wait, wait" "green! go!" Sometimes I sign, too, if it's convenient (and esp if the CI got hurled across the car). Lately we've been hearing him chime in from the back, too. "ee! op!" "bee, bee" (he still says "bee" for "wait) and then a gasp of excitement when it changes (every time! I love this kid!) and "EEE! OOH!" He's taken to enacting this out with his cars, too. Very cute.

* and finally I am referred to as "mah-ee" instead of "bee". Woohoo!! Daddy has been "yayee" for a long time. But I finally got a "ma-ee." He labels us and what belongs to us all the time. Like going around the table: Ellis's plate (he says like a cross between "el" or "uh" for his name), Yayee, Ma-ee's plate, etc. He's really internalized Ma-ee, too, because the other night he came stumbling into our room and when I picked him up, he said, half-asleep "ma-ee" and signed "mommy". *melt*

* about a month ago he nailed "sh" and "s", too. yay! that makes all 6 ling sounds that he says.

I probably should add that we have a new speech therapist from the county who will be coming to the house, in addition to Totally Awesome Fabulous Speech Therapist. The other therapist was not going to work for us. She wasn't a bad person or anything. And E liked her just fine. But I felt like the sessions were anemic; they could've been so much more. I couldn't see her plan or trajectory and kept feeling like I wanted to take over. It wasn't worth the distance we were traveling. Thankfully, the go-to person for deaf EI/Preschool in our county pulled some strings for me to get this other person, whose has plenty of CI experience and is current with resources. I feel like I can ask a question and get good response--I have confidence that she knows the territory. And she signs. I like her, and she'll work for us. And she'll be coming to the house. SO NICE!

Six months

Jan 31, 2008

It's been six months since Ellis's CI activation. It was actually 6 mos exactly a week ago, but I've been wanting to sit down and write a long, eloquent post, but it's just not going to happen, at least eloquence isn't. So I'll pound out some details just to keep them around.

Last Thurs in his speech therapy session at CHOP, Totally Awesome Therapist declared that Ellis was ready to graduate from Learning to Listen Sounds (like "choo-choo" for train) to actual words. So we're cycling back through a few consonants adding words. So far (in no particular order) we've done B, M, P, H, N, and W (with a variety of vowel combinations), and are now back on B for words.

He has good auditory discrimination (esp pitch and rhythm) and short-term auditory memory. He imitates speech ALL the time.

He has about 40 words expressively and receptively (speech that is, he's hundreds in sign, of course--we lost count over a year ago). It's funny to go through all these stages again, because I feel like we were just here...just in ASL.

Words he says (well, they aren't perfect, but the meaning is there). I'm going to record how he says them, because it's so cute (sorry if this is crazy pedantic, it's partly for my record, too):

stop (a silent "p", sometimes "op")
help (silent "hp")
ow
whee (as in going down a slide; this a Learning to Listen [LTL] sound)
yay (as in yippee!)
eww (as in yucky, dirty)
Mmm (as in yummy/eating; LTL)
pop (says "pop" but it's silent/whispered)
sssh (as in sleep; LTL. Actually he makes this by sort of blowing through his teeth, same with the "s" sound)
no (oh)
yes (yea)
more (mo)
hi (silent "h")
bye
open (oh)
go (oh)
wash (ba; can sometimes get a "wa" out of him, but he's hanging onto that B)
water (ba)
wet (ba; he signs with these, so I know which one it is)
jump (silent "p")
up
Daddy (aa-ee)
Poppy (my FIL, silent "pop")
baby (beebee)
eyes (long i sound)
nose (oh)
all done (ah-ba)
dirty (uh-ee)
hot (silent "ha")
juice (ooooh)
ball (ba)
beepbeep (as in car; LTL)
moo (as in cow; LTL. says "ooooh")
meow (as in cat; LTL. says "ow")
woofwoof (as in dog; LTL. says "woo, woo")
knock-knock (as in door; LTL. says "bah, bah")
choo-choo (as in train; LTL. says "ooo-ooooo")
aaah (as in airplane; LTL)
quack-quack (as in duck; LTL. says "ba, ba")
shoes (oooh)
wait (bee)
please (eee)
wow (bow)
I swear he said "ah-oo" for thank-you the other day, too.

He might not always get the consonant/vowels completely right, but the inflection is usually really close. I'm happy that he's getting the hang of this talking thing and seems to enjoy it. When his CI is on, I see him incorporating talking into his play independent of us, and that's really where a child's learning and internalizing takes place. It's sweet to hear his little voice saying "oo-ooo" over his wooden train track.

Thanks to his totally awesome bilingual classroom, though, he is still progressing marvelously in his signing skills. It's hard for me to sit here and make a list of what he's doing in sign, because by now it's such a natural part of our life. This is where we have conversations.

He reads books in ASL now, simple stories, like his favorite, Five Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed (or any of the sequels). He doesn't use classifiers perfectly or anything (even I don't! top on my list of ASL Thing I Need to Finetune), but he's got the basic gist. He uses more descriptive signs all the time, like colors, feelings, fast/slow. One thing that I think is really cute is that in all the pictures he points out the little kid as him, an older male as Daddy, and an older female as Mommy. I think I make a nice Mommy monkey. :-)

He's still in love with his letters. He's nailed a few more handshapes (I and J are big accomplishments). He's SO cute the way he stops, makes the I, and carefully signs "noodle". He's only got one handshape left to grow into, W. He still makes a 4 instead.

And, get this!, he recognizes his printed name!! Can you believe it?! They're doing this at school, recognizing their own and their classmates printed names and fingerspelling them. We were at a parent-teacher meeting, and one teacher showed us this and held up some random kid's name (only letters, no pictures), and E glanced up and did her name sign. We were so surprised! haha!

We have our first meeting to transition him to an IEP in a couple of weeks. He will be turning 3 in June. I'm really not looking forward to this. If you have any advice about making IEPs say what you want them to say, please let me know. I have a couple of books I'm looking through, so that I'll at least know what we're legally entitled to.

So that's Ellis News, the Quick and Dry Edition. I wish I had a fun movie for you, but life is so fleeting around an super, speedy-fast 2.5 yo.

Ears, letters, phonemes, school, etc

Nov 03, 2007

It's probably about time to do another update on how fantastic Ellis is *grin*. I was kind of on hiatus from all deaf blogging for a little while. The comments were starting to get too intense for me, which, to some extent, I allow to happen merely by posting on the world wide web. whatever. Lots of fun things to write about today.

On the CI front, Ellis is making excellent progress. He's just over three months since activation. We still don't have speech therapy with our county straightened out (my current pain in the neck), so we still go to CHOP (the hospital), which is cool, because I heart our speech therapist. And I will probably continue with her as long as possible, even if the stupid county sorts itself out.*

So, to make this totally pedantic. Words (or rather phonemes, in most cases) Ellis says consistently with meaning:
Aaah (for airplane),
Ooo (for "choo"/train),
bye-bye,
Oh (for the letter O, "open", "no", "go", and "home"),
Eee (for the letter "E" and "please),
Mmm (for "more"--and usually nestled in a variety of vowel combinations)
And he is saying "p" very well in the past few days, which is great. It's kind of hard, its being a silent plosive and all.
Lately he's also blowing silently for "s" and "sh". It's in there somewhere.
"B"/'buh' is still sort of default phoneme for whatever word he happens to be trying to say.

He doesn't really babble. They say the newly activated CI kids will go through a babbling process like babies do. But he doesn't really. He's trying to say real things. When he's playing and I'm narrating his world, he tries to copy what we're saying, which we were doing (still do) in sign, as well. Like if I say, "do you want some juice?" he'll say "Oooo" for "juice". And he incorporates his few words/phonemes into his play, saying 'bye-bye' to his toy car, making things fly "aaah", and begging to ride the train, "Ooooo".

The other day, I was sitting behind him, and I said "let's put on your shoes!" and he turned around and said "Ooo" and signed "train"--making the connection between the "ooo" sound in "shoe" and "choo". He's responding to sounds/his name pretty consistently, too. He sometimes will even come if I call from another room. And he will respond to "invisible" sounds, that have no immediate visual connection, like a noisy truck outside a block away. I'm so glad that we have sign, because I can tell him what he's hearing in a language he already understands. I can explain by speaking, too, but it's not going to have the same meaning this early in the auditory game.

The other cool thing is that he's making the separation between English and ASL. He either says it OR he signs it. He doesn't really do both, at least not after he's solidly got the word in his mouth. Sometimes he says it and then will sign it, but for the most part he keeps it separate. I think this is really cool, because it is classic bilingual skills.

The CI aside, though, it's fun to see him develop so much in his language skills. For instance, he is currently obsessed with the alphabet. Actually obsessed is understatement. He practically signs letters in his sleep!! Since about 20 months old, he's shown interest in the letters. (thanks to the ASL alphabet placemat that Chris's aunt got him. Thumbs up!!) At first, he only paid attention to some of the handshapes, and as he developed the dexterity to do more of them, he learned more of them. (The letter "Y" and "I" are particularly difficult for little hands.) It's funny, because he wouldn't sign the "Y" handshape words (like "play" or "telephone") until he made some deliberate approximation of the actual handshape.

Anyway, now he's made the connection between the English letter and the ASL handshape. And he never stops!!!! Every sign we have to spell out. All his books. Letters everywhere!!! He won't just draw anymore, he makes us write letters. He even tries to write letters by making tiny strokes on the paper and then signing to us which letter it apparently is. He even thinks numbers are letters, like "3" is "E", "4" is "A". Shapes are letters! (A triangle is "A", a circle is "O".) He now has a nice border around his room of the ASL/English letters. He loves it. Now if only we could get lower case.... Naturally, I'm thrilled at the first stage of literacy.

Ellis is doing a lot better in his adjustment to his 2yo preschool/playgroup class at PSD. He doesn't cry his head off when I leave anymore. He looks a little sad, but is usually happy to go in and play with his best friend.

This is a huge relief to me. Because I was having major separation anxiety. heh, heh. I'm really happy for him to be there. We want him at PSD next year, too, for the start of Official Preschool. I have no idea beyond that. Our plan is to take it year by year. Somehow, though, we want PSD to always be in the equation somewhere. It's really important for him to have Deaf friends and a consistent place in his social life in the Deaf community.

The bilingual step is a delicate dance.

* Speaking of stupid county. We had E's annual review for his IFSP (Individualized Family Service Plan) a few weeks ago. SIX people in our living room!!! The county coordinator, a person from the agency that pays for it, E's teacher of the deaf from PSD, our Deaf mentor from PSD, an ASL interpreter from PSD, and an educational consultant from CHOP (to help us sort out this speech therapy nightmare). Ellis blithely playing with his train in the middle of the floor. All this for a 2yo! Since he'll be 3 next summer, we also have start thinking about transitioning for the IEP (Individualized Education Plan). I'm so not looking forward to that process.

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